The festival evolved Coming_to_be out of a series of club nights , held Hold in the Elephant and Castle area of South London and hosted and organised Arranging by Sam Kilcoyne , the teenage son of Barry 7 from Add N to ( X ) and current member of the band S.C.U.M , after he was refused Agree_or_refuse_to_act admission to a Buzzcocks gig for being only 14 .